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Irvine, CA: Covenant Community Church, November 1987, Covenant
Media Foundation, 800/553-3938
A Moral
Checkup for Your Mouth
By Dr. Greg Bahnsen
It
is every Christian’s heart-felt desire to live a more holy life, one that better
glorifies God and displays His love. The process by which believers grow in
holiness is called "sanctification." It is the result of God’s
powerful, transforming grace within us.
The
outworking of the Holy Spirit’s sanctifying work is not as vague or mystical as
many well-meaning Christians imagine. It can be seen in very definite ways in
our conduct—particularly in the way we use our mouths. About our linguistic
habits God tells us: "All of us stumble in many ways, but if anyone is
never at fault in what he says, then he is mature, able to control his whole
body" (James 3:2).
Reforming
the way we use our words, then, is a key to sanctification. The mouth is so
troublesome and sinful that, if it can be made more holy, so can other areas of
our conduct. For that reason, the following "oral check-up" has been
devised, summarizing much of what the Bible teaches us about the way we should
speak. If Christian morality were more evident here, God would surely receive
greater glory—not only among us, but also through us before the world.
Notice the Destructive Power of Words
"Thy tongue devises very wickedness: like a
sharp razor, working deceitfully.... Thou lovest all devouring words, O thou
deceitful tongue" (Psalm 52:2, 4).
"Who have whet their tongue like a sword, and
have aimed their arrows, even bitter words. (Psalm 64:3)
"There is rash speaking which is like the
piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings health" (Proverbs
12:18).
"A worthless man devises mischief, and in his
lips there is as a scorching fire" (Proverbs 16:27).
"Their throat is an open sepulchre; with their
tongues they have used deceit: the poison of asps is under their lips"
(Romans 3:13).
Do You Defame Fellow Believers with Harsh Language?
"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a grievous
word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise utters
knowledge aright, but the mouth of fools pours out
folly... A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness therein is a
breaking of the spirit" (Proverbs 15:1-4).
"The tongue is a fire, the world of iniquity
among our members which defiles the whole body...and is set on fire by hell....
It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith we bless the Lord and
Father, and therewith we curse men, who are made after the likeness of God: out
of the same mouth comes forth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things
ought not to be so.... If you have bitter jealousy and faction in your heart,
glory not and lie not against the truth. This wisdom is not a wisdom that comes
down from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.... But the wisdom that is
from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, easy to be entreated, full of
mercy and good fruits..." (James 3:5-18).
Do You Criticize Unnecessarily or Talk Too Much?
"In the multitude of words there is no lack of
transgression, but he who refrains his lips does wisely" (Proverbs 10:19).
"He who goes about as a talebearer reveals
secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter" (Proverbs
11:13).
"A perverse man scatters abroad strife, and a
whisperer separates best friends" (Proverbs 16:28).
"He who spares his words has knowledge, and he
who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool, when he holds his
peace, is counted wise. (Proverbs 17:27-28).
"For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where
there is no whisperer, contention ceases. As coals are to hot embers, and wood
to fire, so is a contentious man to inflame strife. (Proverbs 26:20-21).
Do You Judgmentally or Maliciously Speak Evil of
Fellow Believers?
"Speak not one against another, brethren. He who
speaks against a brother or judges his brother speaks against the law and
judges the law...[and so] is not a doer of the law" (James 4:11).
"You sit and speak against your brother; you
slander your own mother’s son" (Psalm 50:20).
"Who are you to judge the servant of another?
Before his own lord he stands or falls.... But you, why do you judge your
brother? Or you again, why do you set at nought your brother? For we shall all
stand before the judgment-seat of God.... Let us not therefore judge one
another any more. (Romans 14:4, 8-13).
"All the day long they wrest my words: all their
thoughts are against me for evil" (Psalm 56:5).
"I wrote unto you not to keep company, if any man
that is named a brother be...a reviler.... Be not deceived: neither
fornicators...nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God.
(1 Corinthians 5:11; 6:10).
Do You Speak Uncharitably?
"Love is longsuffering and is kind...does not
behave itself unseemly, seeks not its own, is not provoked, takes not account
of evil, rejoices not in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; it bears
all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things (1
Corinthians 13:4-7).
Do You Interpret People In The Best Light?
The man with unsound and ungodly attitudes] is puffed
up...whereof comes envy, strife, railings, evil suspicion..." (1
Timothy 6:4).
[By contrast, the inspired writer, after speaking of
evil actions, said:] "But beloved we are persuaded better things of you
and things that accompany salvation..." (Hebrews 6:9).
[Examples of seeing others in the worst light: 1
Samuel 1:13-15; 17:28; 2 Samuel 10:3; 16:3; 19:25-27; Nehemiah 6:6-8; Acts
24:2,5. We can take one instance —] "And when the barbarians saw the
venomous creature hanging from [Paul’s] hand, they said one to another, No
doubt this man is a murderer, whom, though he has escaped from the sea, yet
Justice has not allowed to live (Acts 28:4).}
Is What You Say Kind?
"Let not kindness and truth forsake you; bind
them about your neck: write them upon the tablet of your heart" (Proverbs
3:3).
"The wise in heart shall be called prudent; and
the sweetness of the lips increases learning.... Pleasant words are as a
honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones" (Proverbs 16:21,
24).
"She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the law of
kindness is on her tongue" (Proverbs 31:26).
"The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control"
(Galatians 5:22-23).
"And be kind one to another, tenderhearted"
(Ephesians 4:32).
"Put on...a heart of compassion, kindness,
lowliness, gentleness, longsuffering...and above all these things put on love,
which is the bond of perfection" (Colossians 3:12,14).
"Finally, be all of you like-minded,
compassionate, loving as brethren, tenderhearted, humble-minded (1 Peter 3:8).
Does Your Speaking Show Humility?
"Do nothing through faction or vainglory, but in
lowliness of mind, let each count the other as better than himself"
(Philippians 2:3).
"Do not think of yourself more highly than you
ought to think....In love of the brethren be tenderly affectionate one to
another; in honor preferring one another" (Romans 12:3, 10).
"With all lowliness and gentleness, with
longsuffering, forbearing one another in love" (Ephesians 4:2).
Do You Speak Carelessly?
"He who guards his mouth keeps his life, but he
who opens wide his lips shall have destruction" (Proverbs 13:3).
"The heart of the righteous studies how to
answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things" (Proverbs
15:28).
"Whosoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps
his soul from troubles" (Proverbs 21:23).
"See a man who is hasty in his words? There is
more hope for a fool than for him" (Proverbs 29:20).
"If any man thinks himself to be religious and
does not bridle his tongue, he deceives himself and this man's religion is
vain" (James 1:26).
"He who would love life and see good days, let
him refrain his tongue from evil and his lips that they speak no guile" (1
Peter 3:10).
Do You Choose Your Words Cautiously and Fairly, or Do
You Press into Service Provocative (Emotive) and Unqualified (Categorical)
Expressions?
" I say unto you that...whoever shall say to his
brother "Raca" [a term of contempt] shall be in danger of the
council, and whoever shall say "You fool" shall be in danger of hell
fire" (Matthew 5:22).
"I said in my haste, ‘All men are liars’"
(Psalm 116:11).
[When we oversimplify and lump together the righteous
and unrighteous under one condemning rubric, note:] "He who justifies the
wicked, and he who condemns the righteous, both of them alike are an
abomination to the Lord" (Proverbs 17:15).
"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your
mouth, but such as is good for edifying as the need may be, that it may give
grace to them that hear" (Ephesians 4:29).
"Let us follow after things which make for peace
and things whereby we may edify one another" (Romans 14:19).
"A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in
network of silver. As an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold is a wise
reprover upon an obedient ear" (Proverbs 25:11-12).
"The tongue of the righteous is as choice
silver.... The lips of the righteous know what is acceptable, but the mouth of
the wicked speaks perverseness" (Proverbs 10:20,32).
"A man has joy in the answer of his mouth, and a
word in due season, how good it is!" (Proverbs 15:23)
"The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of
life, but violence covers the mouth of the wicked" (Proverbs 10:11).
"A grievous word stirs up anger...the mouth of
fools pours forth folly" (Proverbs 15:1,2).
Do You Gossip or Publicly
Discredit People?
"You shall not go up and down as a talebearer
among your people" (Leviticus 19:16).
"Who shall dwell with Jehovah?... He who
slanders not with his tongue...nor takes up a reproach against his
neighbor" (Psalm 15:3).
"And withal they learn also to be idle, going
about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies,
speaking things which they ought not" (1 Timothy 5:13).
"He who utters a slander is a fool"
(Proverbs 10:18).
"The mouth of the wicked and the mouth of deceit
have they opened against me.... They have compassed me about also with words of
hatred and fought against me without a cause" (Psalm 109:2,3).
"Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from
speaking guile" (Psalm 34:13; 1 Peter 3:10).
"Let all bitterness...clamor and railing be put
away from you, with all malice" (Ephesians 4:31).
"Put them in mind...to speak evil of no man, not
to be contentious, to be gentle, showing all gentleness toward all men"
(Titus 3:1-2).
[Whisperers and backbiters are condemned: Psalm
101:5; Romans 1:29,30; 2 Corinthians 12:20] "The north wind drives away
rain, so does an angry countenance a backbiting tongue" (Proverbs 25:23).
Do You Publicly Criticize People
Before First Speaking with Them and Seeking Their Restoration?
"He who gives an answer before he hears, it is
folly and shame to him.... He who pleads his cause first seems just, but his
neighbor comes and searches him out" (Proverbs 18:13, 17).
"Go not hastily to strive, lest you know not
what to do in the end thereof, when your neighbor has put you to shame. Debate
your cause with your neighbor himself, and disclose not the secret of another,
lest he who hears it revile thee and your infamy turn not away" (Proverbs
25:8-10).
"Brethren, even if a man be overtaken in any
trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of
gentleness.... Bear one another’s burdens and so fulfill the law of
Christ" (Galatians 6:1-2).
"My brethren, if any among you err from the
truth and one convert him, let him know that he who converts a sinner from the
error of his way shall save a soul from death and shall cover a multitude of
sins" (James 5:19-20).
"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your
mouth, but such as is good for edifying as the need may be, that it may give
grace to them who hear" (Ephesians 4:29; cf. Romans 14:19).
"And if your brother sins against you, go, show
him his fault between you and him alone; if he hears you, you have gained your
brother. But if he does not hear you, take with you one or two more, that at
the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he
refuses to hear them, tell it unto the church" (Matthew 18:15-17).
Do You Speak with Sensitivity, the Way You Would Have
Others Speak of You?
[See preceding passages about kindness, humility, and
gentleness: for instance, 1 Peter 3:8; Ephesians 4:32; Titus 3:2; Romans 12:10]
"If there is therefore any exhortation in
Christ, if any consolation of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any
tender mercies and compassions, make full my joy that you be of the same mind,
having the same love, being of one accord" (Philippians 2:1-2).
"You shall love your neighbor as yourself"
(Leviticus 19:18; Matthew 19:19; Romans 13:9).
"For the whole law is fulfilled in one word,
even in this: You shall love your neighbor as yourself" (Galatians 5:14).
"All things therefore whatsoever you would that men
should do unto you, even so do also unto them, for this is the law and the
prophets" (Matthew 7:12).
Do You Exemplify the Very Things for Which You
Criticize Others?
" Judge not that you be not judged. For by the
same standard you judge, you shall be judged; and with the measure you mete it
out, it shall be meted out to you.... You hypocrite, first cast out the beam in
your own eye, and then you shall see clearly to cast out the speck from your
brother’s eye" (Matthew 7:1-5).
"Therefore you are without excuse, O man,
whosoever you are who judges. For in that very thing you judge another, you
condemn yourself, for you who who judges practices the same things"
(Romans 2:1).
Do Your Words about Others Amount to Humiliation or
Mockery?
" With his mouth the godless man destroys his
neighbor" (Proverbs 11:9).
"A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but
perverseness therein is a breaking of the spirit" (Proverbs 15:4).
"But if you bite and devour one another, take
heed that you not be consumed of one another" (Galatians 5:15).
[Examples of the sin of mockery: Genesis 21:9 with
Galatians 4:29; Psalm 35:16, 21; Matthew 27:24]
[The opposite of humiliating words is commended:
Proverbs 16:21, 24; 27:9, and preceding passages about kindness, sensitivity,
etc.]
"Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth
speaks.... And I say unto you that every idle word that men shall speak they
shall give account thereof in the day of judgment; for by your words you shall
be justified and by your words you shall be condemned" (Matthew 12:34b,
36-37).
"As a madman who casts firebrands and deadly
arrows, so is the man who deceives his neighbor and says, ‘I was only
kidding’" (Proverbs 26:18-19).
"He who covers his transgressions shall not
prosper, but whoso confesses and forsakes them shall obtain mercy"
(Proverbs 28:13).
"Yet you say ‘I am innocent....’ Surely I will
enter into judgment with you because you say ‘I have not sinned’"
(Jeremiah 2:35).
[Examples of attempting to evade responsibility and
making excuses: Proverbs 30:20; Genesis 3:12-13; 4:9; Matthew 27:24; Luke
14:18]
Are You Always Careful to Tell the Truth When You
Speak?
"A man who bears false witness against his
neighbor is a maul, and a sword, and a sharp arrow" (Proverbs 25:18).
"You shall not bear false witness against your
neighbor" (Exodus 20:16; Deuteronomy 5:20; Matthew 19:18).
"For out of the heart come forth evil
thoughts...false witness, railings: these are the things which defile the
man" (Matthew 15:19-20).
"You shall not take up a false report; put not
your hand with the wicked to be an unrighteous witness" (Exodus 23:1).
"You shall not...lie one to another"
(Leviticus 19:11).
"Wherefore, putting away falsehood, speak the
truth each one with his neighbor, for we are members one of another"
(Ephesians 4:25).
"Lie not one to another, seeing that you have
put off the old man with his doings" (Colossians 3:9).
"There are six things which Jehovah hates, yes
seven which are an abomination to Him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue...a false
witness who utters lies" (Proverbs 6:16-19).
"He who utters truth shows forth righteousness,
but a false witness deceit.... The lip of truth shall be established forever,
but a lying tongue is but for a moment" (Proverbs 12:17, 19).
"Be not a witness against your neighbor without
cause, and deceive not with your lips" (Proverbs 24:28).
"A false witness shall not go unpunished, and he
who utters lies shall perish" (Proverbs 19:9; cf. 21:28).
[The mouths of unruly men, vain talkers and deceivers,
must be stopped by strong reproof (Titus 1:10-13).
"But for...all liars, their part shall be in the
lake that burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death"
(Revelation 21:8).
Do You Keep the Promises that You Make?
[Who shall dwell with the Lord?] "He who swears
to his own hurt and changes not" (Psalm 15:4).
[Among those who stand condemned by God are
covenant-breakers (Romans 1:31; 2 Timothy 3:3).
Does Your Mouth Use Coarse Humor or Foolish Jesting?
"But fornication and all uncleanness or
covetousness, let it not even be named among you as becomes saints: nor
filthiness, nor foolish talking, or jesting, which are not befitting (Ephesians
5:3-4).
"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your
mouth" (Ephesians 4:29).
"Put them all away: anger, wrath, malice,
railing, shameful speaking out of your mouth" (Colossians 3:8).
"Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things
are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report: if there be
any virtue, and if there be anything praiseworthy, think on these things"
(Philippians 4:8).
Do You Use Words to Boast or Flatter Yourself?
"The Lord shall cut off all flattering lips and
the tongue that speaks proud things" (Psalm 12:3).
"For men shall be lovers of their own selves,
covetous, boasters" (2 Timothy 3:2).
"Be not wise in your own conceits" (Romans
12:16).
"I hate pride and arrogance and the evil way and
the perverted mouth" (Proverbs 8:13).
"Do not think more highly of yourself than you
ought to think" (Romans 12:3).
"Let another praise you and not your own mouth—a
stranger and not your own lips" (Proverbs 27:2).
Does Your Conversation Use God’s Name Taken in Vain?
You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in
vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain
(Exodus 20:7; Deuteronomy 5:11).
"After this manner are you to pray: Our Father
who art in heaven, Hallowed be Thy name" (Matthew 6:9).
[This requires that we reverence all of God's titles,
attributes, works, etc.:] "Give unto the Lord the glory due unto His name;
worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness" (Psalm 29:2).
"O Lord our Lord, how excellent is your name in
all the earth" (Psalm 7:1).
"Swear not at all, neither by heaven, for it is
the throne of God; nor by earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for
it is the city of the great King; neither by your head, for you cannot make one
hair white or black" (Matthew 5:34-36).
[It also requires that we profess the name of Christ
and praise Him:] "If you shall confess with your mouth Jesus as the Lord,
and shall believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you shall be
saved.... Whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved"
(Romans 10:9,13).
"No man speaking in the Spirit of God says
‘Jesus is anathema,’ and no man can say ‘Jesus is Lord’ but by the Holy Spirit
(1 Corinthians 12:3).
"Through Him, then, let us offer up a sacrifice
of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of lips which make confession
to His name" (Hebrews 13:15).
[This entails that all of our speaking must be
pleasing to God:] "And whatsoever you do in word or deed, do all in the
name of the Lord Jesus" (Colossians 3:17).
[We must not dishonor our profession of His name by our
behavior:] "For the name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles through
you" (Romans 2:24).
"Let your lifestyle [conduct] be such as becomes
the gospel of Christ" (Philippians 1:27).